I think part of it is that there are some frail elderly people (and a couple with extremely life-threatening conditions) in that parish so it wasn't the death I was expecting.
Amazingly enough, I did not collapse in tears during church today. Funeral is on Tuesday evening and I will be part of the Dead Spread* crew, which will be good recovery for me, I think.
* If you listened to Saturday All Things Considered, you heard my pal Barb the Blue Ribbon Queen of the Minny-Soda State Fair ... who popularized the term on rec.food.cooking. (If you've had my brownies, that's her recipe.)