I've seen a lot of similar posts about various illnesses or disabilities or whatevers, and my overall impression is that the writers want to be understood by others (fine) and treated as if there were nothing harmful about their condition (not fine). I'm very understanding of the effects of depression, having suffered from that condition for most of my adult life, but I'm very unsympathetic to a person who wants to strong-arm me into putting up with being treated poorly and make me feel guilty for being upset about that. It took a long time for me to learn to stand up for myself in that way, and I'm not giving it up.

My feeling now is that if you have depression, or ADHD, or you're autistic, and you refuse to seek help for normalizing your interactions with others, then you're an asshole. And you deserve to be treated like one. A lot of people use those conditions to control their friends and relatives, and that is just wrong.